I say, “With Parkinson’s old things become new things.” In my 30 years of life with Andy, before Parkinson’s- from age 17-47 for me- he is the one in our partnership who planned for our mutual goals. I was a willing and creative partner and […]

I like to and am able to move to many types of music and I also love to be in synchrony with Andy. He doesn’t have the ability to adjust to the variety of music life presents and so it is up to me to […]

I know this symptom could become another reason for Andy to stay out of the public eye  and grow more isolated. In my moment of feeling grossed out, I also know emphatically that we need to find a way to live well with this too. […]

Incurable disease is a life sentence.Let’s reemphasize that.Incurable disease is a life sentence not a death sentence. I thought that Parkinson’s disease hijacking Andy’s voice and rendering him a forever whisperer was as bad as that could get, until we were in speech therapy for […]

Parkinson’s has an effect on a patient’s voice and therefore on their ability to communicate. During Andy’s first 10 years living with Parkinson’s, his body shook like hell. The list of what he couldn’t do anymore was extensive and grew longer as time went on. […]

The seasons of life rightly include different people at different times. Parkinson’s is a disease that often isolates the patient- not because of contagion but because the symptoms can make one feel unfit to be out in the world. The world can also be unsafe […]

It’s weird. Just like so many symptoms people with Parkinson’s live with, “freezing” can only be helped if it is known. Education is part of becoming at ease and living well no matter what the symptom is. The term “freezing” in Parkinson’s disease, refers to […]

Andy and I are in Hawaii for three weeks. We arranged a home exchange here last year and were able to do it again. Our borrowed house is on a hill overlooking the Pacific Ocean and we swim every morning at Kauna Oa beach, a […]

The way Andy got through those years of not being able to feed himself, or move safely without help, or write anything, or sit quietly and be still was:1) Developing the deepest spiritual sense of biding time.2) Waiting as an active response.3) Finding the bravest […]

We run out of answers.We run out of patience.We run out of ideas and the capacity to witness suffering.We run out of kindness and compassion and the ability to be nice.When we run out of these, we can only turn to love. Being Andy’s caregiver […]