Brendan was laser focused on finding out about that “lost city”.
To all the people living with illness and disease, I am NOT going to tell you that everything will be okay. To all the care givers, I am NOT advocating to find silver linings in times of pain and suffering.
Although everything eventually will be okay and there are always silver linings, those realities when pointed out can serve to diminish or intrude on a person’s present experience, especially when pain filled.
The yearning we need to access was modeled when my son, Brendan, was four and we traveled to Las Vegas, Nevada and decided to go on a tour of Hoover Dam and Lake Mead. We were part of a large tour group following a guide all through the outer and inner mechanisms of this engineering feat. Early in our guide’s narrative, he mentioned that there was a lost city hidden under the lake. Brendan was transfixed by the idea of a “lost city” and every time the guide stopped talking so people could ask questions, my four year old’s hand shot up. I can hear his precise diction and strong young voice even now, “I want to know more about that lost city!”
Clearly, the guide wished he’d never mentioned it because he wanted to talk about the mechanisms and amazing structures holding back ten trillion gallons of water. As we stood in awe at the 660 foot thick concrete base, Brendan was laser focused on finding out about that “lost city”. At last, others in our group became mesmerized with young Brendan’s heart’s desire and joined him until the guide shifted and addressed the “lost city” subject.
This yearning for what we love is how we wade through the mechanisms and structures that occur when illness and disease enter our lives and threaten to stop up and cover over our streaming feelings. Love expressed is the miracle that we desperately need in order to survive.
What miracles have you experienced during times of illness that came from love being expressed?
You can also read this article in my column in my local newspaper the Taos News.