Year: 2021

 I asked myself how we define who is sick when dealing with a world that only allows a narrow slice of humanity into the “healthy” category. My friend, who learned she had ADHD when she was fifty years old, is discovering how this information fits […]

 After George died, I asked Andy if they had made peace and Andy told me the miracle that had happened, with raspberries as the conduit. My husband, Andy, had a difficult relationship with his father. The first time I met his dad, we’d driven from […]

Brendan was laser focused on finding out about that “lost city”. To all the people living with illness and disease, I am NOT going to tell you that everything will be okay. To all the care givers, I am NOT advocating to find silver linings […]

The worst thing about the quarantine time for me is not that my kids are in different cities and a different continent from me but that if my mom gets sick or if her time to die happens now, I may not be able to […]

I discovered that resistance is not only a way towards acceptance that leads to love and healing, but there is also an opportunity to take a shortcut directly to love. One of the keys is recognizing that resistance is fluid. It is something one feels […]

Those are brave eyes looking out. Andy Heath grew from his initial resistance to brain surgery to acceptance and confidence. This photo is 5 minutes before surgery begins. To accept something is to stop trying to change it. I’ve found that the process is serious […]

Humor, leading to laughter, is a shortcut leading directly to compassion and love. For as long as I can remember, when I wished on stars, I wished for peace, love, joy and laughter for the whole world. Laughter is another trigger that sparks love and […]

The trees in the forest do not get a fungus because they did something wrong. If you seek and find compassion for someone who has hurt you and then forgive the offence and feel love return, can you do this for yourself, when illness or […]

I felt sad, misunderstood and wronged. Later, I felt disappointed and wondered if we could ever be friends again. Finally I felt betrayed and feeling love was out of reach. Compassion is another component of love. For me it has been a tool that leads […]

When Andy was very sick, we discovered it was way too hard to keep wondering why? What had we done to deserve this? Where had we gone wrong in our thoughts, choices and lives? Forgiveness does not have to be hard. It is not, by […]